There is a special kind of hell waiting for me, isn’t there?
I forgot about this.
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand.
We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return.
We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.
Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
BECAUSE YO BABY WANNA MAKE IT FOUR FRIENDSHIP BRACELETS
This is an X-ray of my chest cavity.
Adam Lisagor is part filmmaker, part techworld ad man, part Internet celebrity. A founding member of the cult podcast You Look Nice Today, his demo video for an app created as a fun side project became the beginning of Sandwich Video, a video production company cum ad agency with a client roster featuring some of the most exciting tech companies of our day. I spoke to Adam about his earliest encounters with the Internet, Sandwich Video’s creative process, and shadowy cabals plotting about pink camouflage.
I briefly mentioned my new blog, Let Me Ask You a Thing. It’s a series of interviews with creative people about how they do what they do, and it is very young and full of promise and, well, I just interviewed one of my personal heroes. I’ve never been prouder of something I’ve made. If you’re an ad wanker, comedy dweeb, Internet fanboy, sci fi nerd or art dork, then know that I made Let Me Ask You a Thing just for you.